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Biblical Comfort for Men Grieving Miscarriage

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About this book

This 31-day devotional gives biblical comfort and practical support to men processing miscarriage. The loss of a baby in the womb can leave the father reeling, as well as the mother. He may feel confused, helpless, lonely, deeply sad, or just numb.

As readers draw alongside Jesus in the pages of Luke’s Gospel, they’ll find help to process their grief and to address questions they may be too afraid to ask. There’s also lots of practical help on how to care both for themselves and for their family in the aftermath of miscarriage.

Eric Schumacher writes with sympathy and compassion as someone who has experienced the grief of multiple pregnancy ...

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Specifications

Contributors:
Eric M. Schumacher, Paul David Tripp
ISBN:
9781784989040
Format:
Hardback
First published:
November 2023
Dimensions:
5.3" x 7.5" x 0.6"
Weight:
11.29 oz
Print size:
10.0pt
Language:
English
Pages:
192
Publisher:
The Good Book Company

Contents

Foreword (Paul David Tripp)
Introduction
1. Am I the Only One Who Has Ever Experienced This?
2. Have I Really Lost a Child?
3. How Do I Deal with So Much Uncertainty?
4. What Is Jesus Doing?
5. What Does It Look Like to Honor Jesus In This?
6. Does God Know What I’m Going Through?
7. How Do I Fight the Temptation to Despair?
8. Am I Too Sinful for Jesus to Love?
9. Is It Ok for Me to Take Time Off Work?
10. Why Won’t Jesus Bless Us?
11. What Do I Do with My Anger?
12. Will Jesus Raise My Child from the Dead?
13. What Should I Do with My Confusion?
14. How Do I Care for My Wife?
15. Can I Trust Jesus’ Timing?
16. What Do I Really Believe About Jesus?
17. Are We Making Too Much of This?
18. Is it Ok to Ask for Help?
19. Is This Miscarriage a Curse?
20. What About Sex?
21. Does My Grief Make Me Useless to Jesus?
22. How Should I Care for My Other Children?
23. Can Anything Relieve My Torment?
24. What Do I Do Now?
25. Am I a Downer to My Friends?
26. Have I Failed Jesus?
27. Is There Any Hope?
28. How Do I Cope?
29. Is It Appropriate to Seek Pastoral Care?
30. Is It Okay If We Decide to Stop Trying to Have Children?
31. “Peace to You”

Appendices:
Practical Advice for Husbands (Nate and Lore Wilbert)
Understanding the Medical Side of Miscarriage (Jenn Hesse)
Funerals, Burials, and Remembering (Brian Croft)

Endorsements

Finally—a book that deals with the grief experienced by fathers who have lost children to miscarriage. This book will help men to grieve with hope and to minister to their wives and families at the same time. It is honest, biblical, practical, and timely.

Russell D. Moore Editor in Chief, Christianity Today

This is the devotional I wish someone had given to my husband when we went through our miscarriage. It’s so good. So needed. So important. So tender. Eric named so many unnamed things.

Christine Caine Founder, A21 and Propel Women

Eric knows firsthand the confusion, questions, pain, and emotions that can be associated with miscarriage. He writes of the hope that held and comforted him… and still does. is theologically rich and offers wisdom, hope, comfort, and healing for men grieving miscarriage. A must-have for clergy too.

Justin S. Holcomb Episcopal Minister; Seminary Professor

This is the only book I have ever seen that is written for the father of a miscarried child. And it’s a great one. Dig in, allow God to meet you in the pages of this book, and you will find healing and comfort. And share it with every dad you know.

Dave and Ann Wilson Co-hosts, Family Life Today

Miscarriage affects couples, not just mothers. Men convince themselves that they need to be the strong ones and muscle on unaffected. Not so. Eric’s tour of Luke’s Gospel draws out pastoral applications which show real men how to grieve, care, love, grow, and understand following the tragedy of a miscarriage. There’s nothing else like this book for men.

Adrian Reynolds Head of National Ministries, FIEC UK

Eric Schumacher combines deep biblical insights with raw personal stories to help men tackle the difficult questions that arise in the aftermath of miscarriage. Ultimately, he directs them toward their heavenly Father who alone can comfort and restore. I’m grateful to have this resource to pass along to the many men who have travelled the hard path of miscarriage. They don’t have to walk it alone.

Drew Dyck Author, Your Future Self Will Thank You

A one-of-a-kind resource. These honest reflections ask real questions and provide biblical hope in the midst of suffering. This is a must-read for grieving fathers as they process trauma and loss.

Emily Jensen and Laura Wifler Co-founders, Risen Motherhood

Imagine if, upon learning of your experience with miscarriage, a wise pastor who had suffered similar grief committed to devoting an entire month to caring for you, opening the word of God with you, and helping your tired mind apply it to your burning questions, doubts, and shame. Imagine him giving you prompts and space to help you process and voice your struggle. That’s what Eric has done in this deeply pastoral, unwaveringly biblical, mercifully candid, and incredibly insightful devotional.

Abbey Wedgeworth Author of the Training Young Hearts Series and Held

It is a number of years since my wife and I lost a child through miscarriage, and yet I still found Eric’s book deeply comforting. In this particular and peculiar grief we need to see Jesus Christ in all his close compassion, costly love and kind sovereignty; and it is to Christ that Eric takes us daily. I unreservedly recommend this book.

John Hindley Pastor of BroadGrace Church, Norfolk; author of Serving Without Sinking

A profound, helpful book for men walking through great loss. I would recommend it not just to men who are grieving a miscarriage but to anyone who wants to be a better friend for them—and indeed, to anyone who wants to be more of a friend of Jesus.

Andy Crouch Author, Strong and Weak and The Tech-Wise Family

When we had our miscarriage we were crushed and confused. We did not know how to grieve, or even if we should grieve. I wish I’d had Ours at that time.

Ed Stetzer Executive Director, The Billy Graham Center, Wheaton College, Illinois

I am so grateful that Eric has seen the lack of resources for men walking through loss and felt called to meet the need. He does not minimize the difficulties, nor does he offer flat platitudes. This book is tender and kind, true and real.

Lore Ferguson Wilbert Writer at Sayable.net and assorted other publications

The book that you hold in your hands is a precious gift from a brother who knows what it’s like to be thrilled with conception and then crushed by miscarriage. While women are generally familiar with walking through loss from miscarriage, the heartache of the father is rarely, if ever, acknowledged. Which is why this book is so precious—such a gift. Eric not only acknowledges the loss you’re feeling, he’s walked through it himself and has found Christ faithful even here. I heartily recommend it!

Elyse Fitzpatrick Author and Speaker

If you are a grieving father, or a pastor who has the privilege to journey with others after a miscarriage, this devotional will help answer your most pressing questions and shepherd you through questions you may not even knew you needed to ask! Rooted in personal pain and biblical truth, Ours will point you to the God of comfort who promises hope in the midst of grief. We highly recommend this resource for the church!

Robert and Karen Cheong Founders, Gospel Care Ministries

In this book, Eric comes alongside the grieving with a voice that is as theologically astute as it is tender. When I experienced my first miscarriage, there were so few resources that I could turn to for comfort and guidance—outside of the Bible. Those resources were non-existent for my husband. These brief devotionals are a balm to my grieving heart, even years later. It's a book I wish my husband had when we experienced our losses, and a book I am so grateful to be able to press into the hands of others.

Jasmine Holmes Author of Mother to Son: Letters to a Black Boy on Identity and Hope

Eric Schumacher talks about his experience of miscarriage, the pain and grief it caused, and why the gospel of Jesus still gives him consolation and hope. I do not wish anyone would need a book like this, but I do not doubt that many men will find it helpful during times of confusion, grief, and despair when tragedy strikes.

Dr. Michael F. Bird Lecturer in Theology, Ridley College, Melbourne, Australia

I experienced this book as a master class for this as well as every other kind of grief. Scripture speaks of how those who have received comfort from Christ in their own sorrows are then able to bring comfort to others in theirs. Ours is a shining example of that reality.

Scott Sauls Senior pastor of Christ Presbyterian Church in Nashville, Tennessee and author of Befriend and From Weakness to Strength

When dealing with the great pain of miscarriage, few think to address the confusion and suffering of the man involved. But his grief and struggle is real as well, and he also needs the balm of the gospel. Thankfully this book fills that gap with gentle, honest, wise and gracious words in this time of great need. I pray God might use this to bring comfort and courage to many.

Kelly M. Kapic Author, Embodied Hope

Customer Reviews

5.00 stars incredibly sensitive and timely

 

(Review written for 'Ours')

We gave these books to a family in the church who had a miscarriage. They were perfect for the occassion and touched them greatly with the sensitivity and wisdom given in the materials.

We're so sorry to hear about this loss in your church family. We're so grateful that these resources proved to be helpful.

5.00 stars A Rare Book on an Important Topic

 

(Review written for 'Ours (ebook)')

In the last couple of years, I've been seeking out books about pastoral care subjects for my work with men in my church. This topic, looking at miscarriage, was one of the least covered and most difficult to find something that was both biblical and gospel-centred, whilst also being caring and pastorally sensitive. In "Ours", Schumacher carefully shows us the God who cares and the God who hears, guiding us towards the biblical comfort that we so need. His short chapters/devotionals/reflections are just the right size for dipping into the topic carefully, allowing time to process this information on such ...

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5.00 stars wonderful

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(Review written for 'Ours (ebook)')

This book is a must and I'm surprised there is nothing out there already addressing the grief that a man can and will navigate through a miscarriage. It's such a misconception that only women really deal with the grief coinciding with miscarriage. God created the marriage and the mother/father roles as vital instruments for children, born and unborn. The grief will have a direct impact on the father as well despite his physical distance.

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