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Why does God care who I sleep with? (ebook)

Why does God care who I sleep with? ebook

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A biblical perspective on what sex is designed to be, to mean and to do for us.

Part of the Questioning Faith series.

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Christians are increasingly seen as outdated, restrictive and judgmental when it comes to sex before marriage, cohabitation and homosexuality. In fact for many people, this issue is one of the biggest barriers for them considering Christianity.

Sam Allberry, author of many books including Is God Anti-gay sets out God’s good design for the expression of human sexuality. Readers will be shown that God himself is love and his blueprint for sex is designed to help us to flourish and live out our full humanity.

It is a great reminder of the Bible’s teaching on love, sex and marriage and ideal for giving away to people who may see it as a stumbling block for belief.

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  • Introduction: Christianity’s unavoidable problem
    1. Why do we care who we sleep with?
    2. What is a little girl worth?
    3. What is sex for?
    4. Is sex really just for marriage?
    5. Why was this so controversial back then?
    6. Why is this so controversial today?
    7. What if I’ve really messed up?
    8. Don’t we need to be sexually fulfilled
    to be who we are?
    9. Isn’t love enough?
    10. Why does this really matter to God? The bigger story
    11. Why does this really matter to God? The better story


Contributors Sam Allberry
ISBN 9781784985110
Format eBook
First published February 2020
Language English
Publisher The Good Book Company

Rebecca McLaughlin

Author, Confronting Christianity

In this rich and provocative book, Sam Allberry explores how the yearnings of our hearts, the instincts of our bodies, and the complex cravings of our minds point us to something we want even more than sex. You can read it in an evening. But its effects could last a lifetime.

Matt Smethurst

Gospel Coalition reviewer and Master of Divinity student at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary

This book is characteristic Sam Allberry: practical and vivid, humorous and clear, faithful and compelling. And remarkably timely. For the Bible’s sexual ethic, rightly understood and embodied, is not just true; it’s also beautiful. And contrary to popular belief, it’s good news for the whole world. Sam shows us why.

Matt Chandler

Lead Pastor of Teaching at The Village Church in Dallas/Fort Worth, Texas, and Executive Chaiman of the Acts29 Board.

In a day in which very few are trying to answer the question this book asks with biblical clarity, I am grateful for Sam's courage and insight. This book will serve a generation that's either confused or ignorant of why sex matters and what God's good design is all about. This book will help us understand the beauty, protection, and plan that God has put in place.

Independent reviews

Book Review: Why Does God Care Who I Sleep With?

Thomas Creedy, Thomas Creedy, Feb. 24, 2020

A new series of short books published by the Good Book Company in partnership with OCCA has been hitting the shelves – and Sam Allberry’s contribution is this one. Engaging with a question that relates to a huge area of discussion within and without the Church, Why Does God Care Who I Sleep With? is a brilliant introduction to what Christians should think about sex, and engages carefully and firmly with range of objections.... continue reading


Why are Christians so obsessed with sex?

Scott Corbin, The Gospel Coalition, Feb. 20, 2020

It’s a question that’s often assumed, if not asked outright, by people who aren’t Christians. The question itself can be a little perplexing for Christians: what do you mean “obsessed” with sex? Aren’t Christians known for more important things, like what they think about Jesus Christ, or the Bible as God’s Word?
While the question may sound odd to Christians at first blush, the substance of the issue remains. For many people, what Christianity teaches about sex is, frankly, strange.
Sam Allberry’s newest book, Why Does God Care Who I Sleep With?, seeks to address this issues in a clear, pastoral manner, helping readers understand the beauty and aim of God’s design for sexual union.... continue reading


Book Review: Why does God care who I sleep with?

Jesvin Jose, March 4, 2020

Sexual assault is an issue we just can’t overlook or avoid. When someone is sexually assaulted, we demand justice and rightly so. Most of us know deep within that a violation of sexuality is a violation of personhood. Yet, in today’s culture, we also see a lot of confusion on matters of sexuality.... continue reading

Customer reviews

Oct. 16, 2020

“Excellent truth”

(Review written for 'Why does God care who I sleep with?')

Even our pastor is not thinking Biblically about homosexuality and same sex marriage. This book is very clear in what God has to say about it.

Sept. 5, 2020


(Review written for 'Why does God care who I sleep with?')

straightforward, readable, practical.

Aug. 24, 2020

“A most helpful read.”

(Review written for 'Why does God care who I sleep with?')

For anyone interested in the sexuality debate presently raging out there, Sam Allbery addresses the issue from a Christian/Biblical perspective. It sets forth marriage as a heterosexual and monogamous model. Laced with scripture Allberry writes passionately and with pastoral warmth and compassionate sympathy for those with differing gender tendencies. Most helpful, I heartily recommend this easy to read work.

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